Using Your Time For Improvement With Scott Schilling

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GCM 106 | Using Your Time

 

When monumental things happen to us, whether on a personal or even international scale, it’s not about the thing itself, but how you react to the thing. In the case of a national lockdown, for example, you could be using your time to reflect on yourself, and how you can come back from the lockdown better than ever. Scott Schilling has found success internationally as a speaker, trainer and business coach. Scott gets frank with Rodney Flowers about how you should be using your time to improve yourself. After all, improvement doesn’t happen overnight. If you don’t use all this free time to raise your level, what are you going to do with it?

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Using Your Time For Improvement With Scott Schilling

I have an executive coach, international trainer, and speaker that has presented over 2,500 live events. He’s had a near-death experience. He uses his experience to help train other people how to be of service. I don’t think we need to talk about anything else other than bringing this guy so you can get a taste of what it’s like to receive and to get value from. Someone who can help you up to level and change the game in your life. Help me welcome, Mr. Scott Schilling. Welcome to the show.

Thank you, Rodney. I appreciate the opportunity. It’s always a blast for sure.

I’m glad to have you back on the show. You’ve been here before. To have you back is a blessing. It’s good to see you. I know it hasn’t been that long ago, but it seems like a long time.

That’s the way it gets sometimes. Everybody is busy in life. There are lots of good stuff going on. Even what other people consider not so good, life goes on no matter what.

What have you been up to? How are things going? Where are you? What’s new in your world? What’s going on with you?

What’s exciting is finally I have a book coming out that details a whole bunch of life experiences. I did a very effective job since my near-death experience of avoiding putting this book out because I’m pretty bare naked in it. I revealed some stuff that I’ve never told anybody ever anywhere. Even one of my editors was reading this and said, “Does your wife know about this?” I went, “No, I forgot to tell her.” It wasn’t a purposeful thing. I felt like it needed to be part of the book. I shared it and I realized I had never shared it anywhere privately or publicly. The editor said that. My wife read the book and she looked at me. She goes, “How do I not know this? We’ve been married 24 years.” I went, “Nobody knows this.” She goes, “That is a bad answer because I ain’t nobody.”

It was a great realization. It wasn’t done purposefully. What I realized is I’ve been through a lot of stuff. Everybody’s been through a lot of stuff. The difference is some people have been through stuff and other people you would never guess have been through stuff. This book is detailing a lot of stuff. You don’t wear it on your sleeve. You’ve been through it. You’ve gained the experience from it. Hopefully, you’ve gained wisdom from it, but nobody necessarily knows where all that came from. In this book, it was started with my near-death experience. I came through something that most people don’t live through. The doctors kept on telling me that.

It was like, “That’s crud.” I started searching Google for simple answers to questions like, how long after an event like this do you have to wait to drive? Most people never drive again because their brain doesn’t allow them to do this and this. That’s not the answer I wanted to see. I googled, how long before do I get back on stage and speak? It says, “Because of what you’ve gone through, most people never speak again and never resumed their professional career.” All I had to do is look up those two answers. It’s like, “I’ve got a document. What’s going on in my world? If anybody else is doing what I’m doing trying to find an answer and they’re getting these answers, it’s going to take them in the wrong direction.”

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At least let me document what I’ve been through to serve somebody through my experiences. That went on to uncovering some others. That’s why the book is titled That Sucks… What Now? Real-World Solutions for Getting Through What You’re Going Through. Stuff is going to happen to each and every one of us. We’re all living that. It’s not about the stuff. It’s how we respond to the stuff and what we do with it. Do we gain some wisdom from it? Do we gain some knowledge from it? Do we reach out and try to serve some people through it? All of those are possibilities.

It’s funny that you bring that up. I live by the philosophy, whenever there’s a problem or a challenge that shows up, it’s game time. That’s the time to step up. That’s the time that you’ve got to put on your best game. It’s time to perform. You watch sports. No one watches a boring game. There’s no controversy. There’s competition that isn’t good. The other team is winning and they’re blowing this other team out. That’s not an interesting game. Where it’s opposition out, the ratings are low. When it’s very tight and there’s so much opposition. The one team scores and the other team scores. It’s like a boxing match, one hits the other and the other one hits back. When life hits you, that is game time because when everything is going lovely, that’s boring. What I’m trying to get at is when things happen, that’s your opportunity to shine. If you go back to the game, you’re in those high-pressure moments and someone steps up and he did something that allows the team to get ahead or score in some cases win, you love that guy forever. You’re like, “He’s my hero.”

He’s like the greatest thing since sliced bread. You have that opportunity to be that star player in your game of life whenever opposition shows up. That’s why I call it game time because there’s something in you, if you take the right perspective, take the right approach to things that happened to you. There’s something in you that can be developed, improved, created, evolve, that could come out of thin air sometimes seemingly because of a situation. Situations, events, even what’s going on, I view them as gifts. They’re alarm clocks, wake-up calls. They’re all those things if you can view them through the right lens. If you’re not careful, social media will have you view these things as negative, as debilitating, paralyzing, and all of those things. We all know perception is reality. If that’s what you perceive, that will be your reality. You have to be careful in your perception of what’s going on.

I teach my clients five questions to ask in any situation, what’s the lesson? What’s my gift? What did I do to create it? How would I modify it next time to make it better? How is this going to serve me the rest of my life? Even the near-death experience, doctors are like, “You shouldn’t be alive.” I said, “Sorry to disappoint. I’m an overachiever. I’m here.” That’s the way it works. What’s the lesson? The lesson is when the back of your tailgate hits you in the back of the head and you have a headache for eight days, you should probably get checked out.

What’s the gift? I’m still alive and I can share the wisdom gained through this whole thing. What did I do to create it? I went out to my car. I balanced a box of books on my knee. I flipped open the back hatch of my car. It came down as fast as I threw it up, hit me in the back of the head, cold-cocked me, dissected a vessel in my brain. What would you do next time to make it better? Sell that car. Probably take more caution and care the way that I handled the tailgate and everything. How’s this going to serve me the rest of my life? Because I’ve been able to come out alive, I can tell the stories. I helped connect the American Heart and Stroke Association with a company that I do business with. We did three galas and raised about $750,000.

I’ve shared that you can come through this differently than people say you can. I’ve got a book that says if these kinds of things happened to you, get it checked out. Stop being a guy. We’re invincible, wrong, all those different things. The reality is, how are you going to use the experience that is going on? What’s going on now? It’s a study in humanity. This place that I go to work out in the morning is shut down. I ended up at the grocery store at 6:30 in the morning. I still got up at the same time, not that we needed anything great. The store wasn’t going to be open until 7:00. That was a new change. I was the fourth person in line at 6:30. Not that I wanted to be in line, I was looking for something to do.

I sat and listened to the conversations. You had everything from, “The sky is falling.” “Everything is over,” to “Can you believe that they shut down?” “It’s great that they’re working so hard to stop this for us and everything in between.” By the time the doors opened, there were probably 100 people and literally, there are people running past people. It was like, “Are you serious? For what?” That’s why I appreciate being here. This is game-changing time. This is the game. It’s a different game. The game is going to be different for the rest of our lives. There is not a doubt about that. Hopefully what it’s doing, and this is my prayer, is that it’s uniting people to say, “We’re one humanity or one world. We’re here to serve each other. Let’s pick each other up. Let’s be of service. Let’s be intelligent. Hopefully, this is one of those resets that are available that we go, you’re white, green, purple, black, blue, male, female, transgender, whatever.

GCM 106 | Using Your Time

Using Your Time: Stuff is going to happen to each and every one of us, but it’s not about the stuff. It’s how we respond to the stuff, and what we do with it.

 

It isn’t my job to judge. It is my job to be a great human being committed to gifting and giving the skills, the talents, the capabilities, all the things that I’ve been granted over my life for the very best of all of us. Wouldn’t that be wonderful that we get to hug our children more, care more and develop stronger friendships. I had a friend call me and he goes, “I got this piece of information and I’m calling my top five friends. I want to share it with you. Thanks, brother.” If we would use this to understand, the world has been through a bunch of stuff before. We can get through this. Let’s use our heads. Let’s love each other. Let’s invest in each other. It is game time. It’s a different game. It’s all good.

I love what you said about reset. Going back to the game, what happens in a high-pressure game when maybe, let’s say a football, you got punched in the mouth? You throw it in a section, pick six or you fumbled. Something happened and it wasn’t a part of your game plan. What do we do? Most of the time we call time out. We get the troops, we reset and say, “Let’s reroute, reground ourselves so we can get our heads back into the game.” To have something like this happen, this is the reset. This is the timeout to take a look at how have we been playing? What have we been doing? Have we been doing it right? You have the time to take a look at those things, analyze and evaluate because the timeout doesn’t last forever. The time out is going to come to an end eventually and you’ve got to go back to playing the game.

It’s using this time to evaluate where you are in your game, what changes you need. Do you need adjustments in your strategy? Do you need adjustments in your performance? The way you’ve been carrying yourself, the way you’ve been executing. All of these things are relevant to how you perform in the game, how you execute the game. That time-out is critical. It helps gets your mind right. Sometimes you need that. We’re so busy. We don’t take time to stop. Some people need a universal time-out. They need the universe to call a time-out for them or else they will never stop.

That’s what disease is. Believe it or not, disease is the universe’s time-out. When you get knocked down by something, it’s probably a reset time in your life. We’ve been busy. Somebody posted a great thing that said, “What if we could take this time to hug our spouses more, to be with our kids and read them a book, to get the sleep that we haven’t had for years, to take a nap just because?” It was listing all these things that we should be doing anyway. Because we’re busy being busy, we haven’t done it. Calling a friend, saying, “I love you. What’s going on in your world? I hope all is okay.” It’s one of the things I suggest in my book. I call it a contact list roulette. Take my phone, pick a name, I’ll call them and leave a message, “It’s Scott Schilling. I’m the president of your fan club. I want to let you know you’re awesome. I hope you’re having a great day. Call me if you get a chance.” I hope I get their voicemail. You can’t believe the calls you get back, “You made my day.” We’re in a time where everyone can take and make the choice to make somebody’s day.

We can sit and go, “Doesn’t this suck? I’m bored. I’m sitting inside. I can’t leave my house. There’s no place to go.” There are 7.4 billion people on the planet, you can’t find somebody to talk to? You’re not working very hard at it. I agree with you. I was fortunate enough to play for Hayden Fry at the University of Iowa. The point is when a coach would call a time-out, he’d go, “Get your heads screwed on. You’re better than this. You’re smarter than this. You’ve got this.” Sometimes you’ve got to have that time to breathe out, let it settle, find your spiritual center, find your whatever that is for you. It’s not my job to determine that for you. It’s your job to determine that for you.

I know mine. I know I’ve prayed more. I know I’ve listened to good stuff more. There are some promises that I believe in. Let the promises come true. In that time, be good to each other, love each other, help each other, do the different things you can do. That’s what you would do. When a team comes in and resettles, the coach is going to sit there and say, “You’re better than this. You know this. You’ve got this.” Not when you let your emotions run rampant, go silly and be all. You got punched in the mouth so I want to hit you back. That’s going to help you to get thrown out of the game. We’ve got to stay in the game. You’re a valuable part of the game.

Everybody on the planet is a tremendously valuable part of this game. We need you. We need people to stay out of the way. That should stay out of the way. We need the people to engage that can help the people that are sick. Let them do their job. Don’t text the systems. Don’t do stupid stuff. You know what’s stupid and what’s not, do the right stuff. I look at it very similar to the way you do is we’re in a time of opportunity. It’s a different opportunity and it’s not the way we probably planned it such as life. Not everything goes as planned. It’s not fair. Nobody said it was fair. It’s not fair for anybody. What we have is an opportunity to make it the best we can possibly be. Take some time, rest, regroup. Let your body heal.

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I believe that every challenge comes with the seed of success and opportunity. I’ve also learned those that become champions are the ones who have this unique ability to navigate things that they cannot control. If we were in a football game, sixteen games plus the playoff, there’s going to be a lot of things to happen. No matter how good you are, that’s going to be out of your control. You can’t control everything that happens in a game, but it’s your ability to navigate those. The one who’s able to navigate is talented and can navigate the things that he cannot control very effectively. Those are the ones that become champions. Here we are. You can’t control what happens in any situation.

We call it out what’s going on, but this is day-to-day life. People die every day in car accidents and sometimes it’s not their fault. You’re two feet away from death every time you’re passing a car going over 35 miles an hour. You can’t control someone else stand in their lane or not. You can’t control that. It’s how you navigate those things. It’s what you do to put yourself in the best possible position to win. That’s what we need to be thinking about in this case. It’s putting not only ourselves but our fellow brothers and sisters, those in our community, in the best position to win, given the circumstances. The circumstances are what they are. It could be anything. It could be war. It could be some economic crisis.

Who cares? That’s the flavor of the day. That’s all it is, how you navigate that fleet, that taste, that situation makes all the difference in the world? Looking for ways to navigate the fleet. To go around it, under it, threw it if you have to, but it’s all about getting to the other side as quickly, as effectively, as profitably as possible. That takes thought and critical thinking. We can’t let the uncertainty, the doubt, the gravity of the situation keep you from thinking properly and keeping a level head. It’s a high-pressure situation, but you still have to perform. If you’re not careful, this will be a major distraction. It could cause you to lose this game. You lose in particular games at certain times in your life can cause you to lose the season.

It can prevent you from going into the playoffs or prevent you from winning the championship game. You have to take this seriously and not so much as how bad it is, but the fact that you need to stay on your game in this situation. That’s why I say it’s game time. You’ve got to wake up. You’ve got to be able to see the situation for what it is and understand the opponent. What is this? How can I overcome it? I think about it in a game when your back is up against the wall. In a game, the coach is coaching the team, but his staff, they’re looking for weaknesses in the opposition or how they can explore the defense so that they can get a score.

This is what you need to do with this. What are the weaknesses or what are the opportunities? Looking at how can we be creative? What maybe are some things we haven’t tried before that maybe we can try in this climate that will work. Maybe certain things you’ve done before the situation happened, it didn’t work. You tried to no avail. The climate is perfect for you to do this. That’s where a lot of businesses are created and formed from situations like this. New ideas are funded because of situations like this. That’s why I call it truly is. It’s game time.

I was talking to somebody and you could see her business and her whole thought process shriveling. It was being pulled back and we don’t know what’s going to happen. I said, “Can I share a thought with you?” She said, “Sure.” I said, “I don’t know what’s going to happen either, but here’s what I do know for a fact. Those who persevere through this, who are setting up plans, who are taking proactive measures, who are still having conversations, once something opens up are going to be the ones that are ahead of those who are not.” Do smart things, make the right calls. If you can’t go somewhere, you can’t go to your kid’s soccer game.

That’s disappointing. You were going to spend an hour and a half standing outside and now you don’t have to. Take that hour and a half and call a bunch of friends, solidify some relationships. Check on some people. Do some different things. Nurture some people. You now have that time back. The one commodity we cannot create has been given to everybody called time because all the stuff that we’ve had scheduled, we can’t do for the most part. There are many things we can’t do. You’ve got your time back and you’ve been sitting here and going, “If had time to.” Fill in the dots. You had time to do what? You had time to do a podcast.

GCM 106 | Using Your Time

Using Your Time: The unprecedented nationwide shutdown is good news because everyone can come back bigger, better, faster, and stronger than ever in history.

 

You had time to learn how to use Zoom. You had time to read a book. All of a sudden, there’s something in that book that goes, “Here we go.” We have the opportunity to make a decision. We have opportunities to make choices. It’s a great time to make good quality decisions and make good quality choices. Let’s get in the game. There are going to be a lot of games after this. There has to be. If you go back, obviously, either one of our times. Think about after World War II, how the country prospered because the country was shut down. It had to prosper to grow. We’re in an unprecedented shutdown. Here’s the good news. It’s not going to be that long. I don’t believe. It’s going to be inside of 30 days. The fact is we can come back from this better, bigger, stronger, faster than ever in history. That’s exciting to me. Think of all the opportunity and the people are going to have to be served once things open up again. Use this time to be creative.

My thought process, honestly behind how long it takes, it’s a little different. What’s going on is called resistance and model. This is what I classify. I thrive in these types of situations because it’s the way I viewed them and I perceived them. Whether it’s 30, 90, or 120 days, people can’t fathom what that would look like. I have some questions about what that will look like. One thing I know for sure is over time resistance builds muscle. Over a short period of time, you build a little bit of muscle. Over a longer period of time of pushing against a certain amount of resistance, you get stronger. Eventually, you’re able to breakthrough. That resistance which was once very difficult or challenging becomes less challenging. That’s the way I viewed this is we will adapt. Your body adapts to resistance. Your mind can adapt to resistance if you have a strong mind. We as a people, as a society, as a community, as individuals, we will adapt to the resistance.

What happens is whether it’s 30, 90, or 60 days, we’ll get stronger in the way we have to do business, the way we have to communicate, the way we have to interact with each other. There is uncertainty around how we’re going to do a lot of things because people are thinking of far down the road and all they can think of. They’re looking down the road and they can’t see the steps that are required in between, which is why a lot of opportunities are missed in my opinion, because it’s the process. Even in trying to achieve. Most people focus on the lingo and they don’t think about everything in between and that’s the most important part.

It’s no different. There’s uncertainty because your mind is not focused on what it would take to get over this, to get to the other side. What do you need to do as an individual? Not what are you going to do in 30 or 60 days, but what do you need to do on a day-to-day basis? When you wake up, if you have this type of mindset, you would approach this situation that way. When you wake up, it’s like, “What is my process to get to the end of the day, to meet the objectives that I have at the end of the day?” I know I can look at my calendar. This is what I’m going to do at 9:00, 10:00, 11:00, 12:00, all the way through to the end of the day.

I go through my process. At the end of the day, I hit those three, four objectives because I had that process set up. You expand that to this situation, “What do I need to do in the next 30 days in order to deal with this, to get stronger, to handle this resistance? What would that look like in 90 days?” People don’t want to change. You have to be open to the changes that are necessary to implement that process. That’s what’s freaking people out in my opinion because resistance requires change. If you’re willing to make the change, you can handle the resistance. If you’re not willing to make the change, you have to deal with the resistance and its impact that it has on you. That doesn’t feel good. You’re going to be frustrated.

You’re going to quit. You’re going to lose the game. If you don’t adjust, you don’t win. That’s my message with this. This is resistance. This is no different than an abrupt death in the family. This is no different than what happened to you with your near-death situation. This is no different than what happened to me and my spinal cord injury. Some people are paralyzed because of this and that is resistant. I’m giving you a framework on how to handle not only this resistance but any resistance that shows up. This is the process.

It’s one of the things that I do is I work on language as a presenter and everything. People resist change. People love improvement. Let’s not change. Let’s improve. Languaging, it’s funny because somebody said, “You don’t say the three-letter word,” and I said, “No, I say good or less than good. I don’t say that other word.” People do and that’s fine. That’s their choice. My choice is not even to say it. It’s to say, “How are you doing?” It’s good or less than good. Those are all choices. We can do a lot especially during this time is to look at our choices. I agree with you. It’s game time. It’s a different game. It’s like the XFL showed up. What do you mean they changed that rule? I am a kicker.

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You took the kicker out of the game. What are you doing to me? It was a rule change that they felt needed to happen. We’re going through some rule changes. There’s one thing that doesn’t change is we’re all in this together. All of us, male, female, white, green, purple, it doesn’t matter. We’re all in this together. Screw your head on, be kind, be nice, adapt, contribute, do what you can do, help some people, deliver some milk to somebody if you can get it and they can’t. Not the little things because ultimately the little random acts of kindness that are going to happen through this are going to soften a lot of the stuff that’s been set up for years.

Whether it’s real stuff or perceive stuff, perception is reality. I get that. If we can break through some of that perceived reality and say, “There are some good people on the planet.” There are some people that get this and that we’re all in this together. It’s tough on everybody. The level of toughness is a decision. It’s an opportunity to modify. Is it an opportunity to grow? Is it an opportunity to learn more? Is it an opportunity to serve more? Maybe you’ve been so busy being busy that you haven’t been able to stop and think how you could be of service to somebody. All of a sudden, you recognize you can. It’s phenomenal to me. It’s an interesting study in humanity. We are humanity. We’re it. We have the choice to cast forth what we would like it to be. If it’s not what you like it to be, cast forth what you’d like it to be.

I love the questions that you came up with at the beginning of the show. One of them I love in particular is, how does this serve me? I’ve used that question with things that have happened to me and I’ve used that question with how I’ve responded to things that have happened to me. The way I’ve thought about things that have happened to me and felt about things that have happened to me. How does feeling this way serve me? How does acting this way or responding in this manner, reacting in this manner? How does it serve my mission and my values in how I want to show up in the world? How does that serve me? That’s a good question for people to ask because it challenges who you’re being. We respond to things habitually sometimes. Based on our subconscious programming and our habits, that’s how we respond. A lot of times, those responses are not conducive to overcoming the situation, strengthening ourselves or improving during the situation and performing at a high level during the situation.

You have to ask yourself, “Who am I being?” This goes back to that time-out because you could call it a time-out and take the step back, you can identify who do I want to be in this situation? How does that person behave? How does that person feel? How does that person think? How does that person perform? What did they do? Is that the type of person that I’m being? There are life changes that I can make. You can overlap the person that you want to be in this situation versus the person that you are. The changes that are necessary are evident. They show up. There are lots of choices at that point in time. It’s very simple people. Are you going to choose to be this person or are you going to stick to the person you’ve been being? It goes back to asking the right questions.

I coach intuitively and things sometimes pop up. What popped up is I was remembering a friend and it’s so profound. It’s so easy. I wish everybody would do it. She said, “Learn to be unaffordable.” It’s such a simple concept of making good choices, do good things. We’ve got time for a reset. Be unoffendable, realize that some people don’t handle pressure as well as you do. Some people aren’t as blessed as you do. They don’t have the support mechanisms. They don’t have the systems in place. We’ve got choices. There’s one definition that fits two words and that’s confidence in the unseen, assurance of the unknown.

That’s the definition for fear. We’ve got confidence in the unseen. We haven’t seen it, but it’s going to be bad. Assurance of the unknown, we don’t know this, but we’re going to make it bad. It’s also the definition of faith, confidence in the unseen. We haven’t seen it, but we believe it’s going to be good. Assurance of the unknown, haven’t recognized it yet, but we know it’s going to be good. We have an opportunity to have faith in each other, in ourselves, in our leaders, in our world, in all the countries and all the stuff. We can be harsh about all of it or we can be easy, gentle, caring and understand. We’ve got a great opportunity to modify our behaviors going forward. Not the change word, but the improvement. It’s a choice.

When I was a young boy, not only did I play football, but I played basketball. The difference between football and basketball for me was I was horrible at basketball. I remember one day it was in practice and I was practicing. The coach was letting us play. He wasn’t calling any plays. He was like, “Go.” There’s one particular guy on the team and I was guarding this guy. This guy was good. He’s like a star player. I was keeping it everything that I could. I was fouling this guy. I was beating this guy up because I couldn’t stop him. One moment, I hit him in the face and I didn’t mean to. I was swiping at the ball.

GCM 106 | Using Your Time

Using Your Time: The one thing we have control of is us: our attitude and how we take all this. Control what you control and play to win, play to do the right stuff, play to be good.

 

I hit him hard and he didn’t stop. There were no referees. We were in practice. There were several other times that I hit this guy or I fouled him. It was flagrant. I didn’t mean to do it, but it was bad. He didn’t say, “You’re following me. Come on.” He didn’t try to retaliate or anything like that. He kept going and focusing on getting to the basket or execute. It’s all he focused on. It takes me back to what you said about being not only unoffendable but being undistracted by things that show up in the game because you have a goal. You can choose to allow these feelings of uncertainty to creep up in the game, but you still have a job to do.

You can’t play not to lose. You have to play to win. Whatever comes up in the game, you’ve got to play to win. To me, it’s one of those things. Are you going to whine? I took a different approach to things. For some people, I get it. This is like, “I’ve never had anything happen like this before.” I do have sympathy. I don’t know if I want to call it tough or have the same mindset or approach, but I’m offering another way of viewing this. Even though you don’t have that, this is an opportunity to take that approach because I want you to win.

I want you to get to the other side of this like a champion. That opportunity is available to you, but you have to step into it. You have to take that approach. A way to defeat this is to have a mindset towards it that may not be as soft because this doesn’t care about you, how you feel and what you’ve got going on. If you’re not careful, this will chew you up and spit you out. You have to tell me that it’s like your opposition. All they care about is winning. I take the approach because it’s not that I want them to lose, I want to make sure that I accomplish my goal. It’s not being selfish. I want us as a community, as a people, as a country, as individuals, your families to win. This is the game and the way we win is to have a mindset towards this that defuses the situation. You have to defuse the defense. What can I do to suck the life out of my opposition? In the way I think about it, a lot of times we give more life and meaning to things that happen to us than we should.

The one thing we have control of is us, our attitude and how we take all this. Control what you control and play to win, play to do the right stuff, play to be good, all those different things. When you said that you can’t play, not to lose. The thing that popped into my head was Malcolm Gladwell’s Psycho-Cybernetics. I was a kicker. Instead of thinking I want to make sure that I don’t miss, you had to say, “I want to kick it right down the pipes.” There’s a big difference between don’t miss right or hit it through the middle. This is the don’t lose. This is the win. You’ve got to dial your brain into, things worked for me, not to me. We might not understand it. I don’t understand a lot of it, but if you truly start to believe in some of the different things, like things are there for your benefit and not being done to you. If you believe that and you own that strongly, it doesn’t matter what’s going on because it’s ultimately there for you.

You might have to take a pause. You might have to lean back, go and breathe. What is it exactly? We’re still doing a show here. It’s what I said to somebody, I said, “If you shrivel up, you’re going to come out of this shriveled up. You’re not going to get caught up. You’re going to be behind. Why would you do that?” I’m not saying full-blow accelerate, but I’m saying keep the foot on the gas and keep on doing what you’re doing, modify how you’re doing it. What a great time? You’ve been complaining about not being able to get people on the phone. What are they doing? They’re sitting around going, “I wish I could talk to somebody.” Go and call some people. Make some stuff happen. Get in the game. We’re in overtime. We’re getting some extra time back. Let’s use overtime to win the game.

How can people connect with you?

My site is ScottSchillingOnline.com. Email me at Scott@ScottSchilling. I don’t make it hard to get ahold of. I would love to talk to people and share with them or help them however I can be of service. This is the time we’ve all got to buckle up and serve each other.

I want to say thank you for coming on the show. This has been a very exhilarating conversation for me. I love this type of stuff. I thrive in these types of situations. I want you guys to thrive as well. A lot of people pull back, a lot of people tap out. They want out of the game. They don’t want to stay in. They don’t want that pressure of having to perform in situations like, “This is too much.” One of the reasons why I got started as a speaker, not only to tell my stories, but when I looked across, not just the market, but individuals. I have seen that people will allow it to be okay for a Michael Jordan, a star or a billionaire to be successful. They’ll look at that situation and say, “It’s okay for them.” I would like to be there. I would like to do something like that with my life.

I don’t have the skillset, the background. I have support. I have the funding to come with all the reasons why it probably would never happen for them. It’s not that they can’t do it. It’s that there’s something going on. They feel this going on with them that will prevent them from ever doing that. They feel that there’s something that was there for that person that allowed them to do it because I don’t have that or they don’t have it. They’re not going to do it. I wanted to debunk that because Michael Jordan was willing to take the shot. If you’re not willing to take the shot, then you can never be a Michael Jordan or LeBron James. You have to be willing to get into the game and play a high-pressure situation in order to have the opportunity to be in a position where you can win at that level.

I call that leveling up. Top performers are made in situations like this. This is what separates them from average to above average. Above-average situations that occur that you can handle and this is an above-average situation. In order to be above-average situations, it’s not hard because most people are busy being average. Look at what the average people are doing. They’re scared. They’re running. They have fear, uncertainty. If you are level headed, if you can maintain, if you can execute, that’s why I say I thrive in these situations. This is the opportunity for you. This will take advantage of that. Get the Game Changer Mentality and win the game. This is it.

Now is the time. This is what you’ve been waiting for.

Thanks for another episode.

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About Scott Schilling

GCM 106 | Using Your TimeScott Schilling has achieved the pinnacle of success within the speaking, training and business coaching industries having achieved the top platforms worldwide sharing the stage with likes of General Colin Powell, Suze Orman and many more.
This presenter commands the information he’ll be sharing here today.
He has personally closed millions of dollars in business, while helping clients grow their businesses closing hundreds of millions. He has helped countless numbers of people find success within their businesses, and passions.

Scott’s reach spans the globe and his time is sought after by people all around the world

 

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