Your view of the world dictates what is possible. In this episode, spiritual growth coach Elliott Robertson joins Rodney Flowers as they dive into spiritual growth that comes from the inside out. Elliott shares some of his work with his clients and why being happy for no reason can dramatically affect your outlook. They also discuss how changing the habit of negative self-talk in your life can make a difference. Tune in and learn to be happy and have meaning in your life that starts from within.
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From The Inside Out: Spiritual Growth With Possibility Whisperer, Elliott Robertson
As always, I am excited about our show. I have a spiritual growth coach with me by the name of Mr. Elliott Robertson. He supports clients with releasing self-judgment and adopting habits of thought that support becoming unshakable. He is also the author of Say Yes to Life: 7 Keys to Living Full Out From Within. He has been published in several major publications, including Science of Mind, Daily Word, and Miracles. I’m looking forward to speaking with Mr. Elliott, welcome to the show.
Thank you so much for including me in your series. It’s a pleasure to be here.
It’s a pleasure to have you on the show, especially when we’re dealing with a lot of anxiety, stress, and trauma for some people. When you talk about spiritual growth, it is an important topic and a lot of people are looking to spiritual growth to get over and beyond some of the issues that we are facing. I’m glad to have you on the show to talk about how we can do that. We’re looking for some of your expertise and maybe some tips and coaching on how we can increase our spirituality.
It's the heart's true desires that are the starting point in spiritual growth. Click To TweetI don’t know about you, but when there are situations that cause us to look within or increase our spiritual growth or look to that place of spirituality to improve or overcome, that becomes an opportunity because otherwise, we wouldn’t do it. Sometimes, it takes something to happen in our lives for us to have an intense moment of spirituality or pursue spiritual growth. Would you agree with that?
I completely agree. Often, it’s when we’re being tested by trials or by the chaos that you realize, “Maybe I’ve been valuing the wrong things. Maybe I’ve been in a course. Maybe there’s a chance for me to be more than I’ve been thinking I am and to turn within.” Spiritual growth is all about coming from the inside out.
I love that you say that because I have a saying that I’ve said on the show several times and many people have heard me say this. I believe in living from within versus living from without. The reason why I feel that way is because there are a lot of distractions and a lot of things going on out there in the world that can distract your inner world. I was talking to my mentor and it was funny because we were talking about the political environment and everything that’s going on in the world. We got in a discussion about how that was making him feel and he wasn’t happy about it.
I said, “Here’s the thing. For me, I look at it as that is a world out there. The political world where everything that’s going on in the world is real, but yet, I look at it as a giant circle and it has all of this stuff going on in it. I’m a circle within this huge circle. I’m a smaller circle. That’s my world and I can’t control what’s going on in that larger circle. My focus is on what’s going on in a small circle. That is Rodney’s world.” Every one of us has a smaller circle. We have a world inside of this world and we can’t control what’s going on in that outer world, but we are responsible and we have the privilege of controlling what’s going on in that inner world.
Even when there are times when we can’t control everything that’s going on in the inner world because it’s been pressed upon by the things that are going on in that outer world, we are responsible for how we respond to those things. That in itself is in a sense of control because that’s the decision. That’s the most important thing. We forget about the fact that we have control of our response, the decisions that we make, and the perceptions that we have of the outer world and how it’s present upon what I call the inner world.
I believe in focusing on this inner part of us, this inner side, your world. Not negating or disrespecting or dismissing the outer world, but in a sense to maintain a certain level of effort and intention on where we’re going, where that inner world is going, what’s going to happen in the inner world. Meaning, the objectives, goals, and dreams because sometimes, the outer world could cause you to feel that the things that you want to happen to your inner world are not possible. It’s overshadowed by everything that’s going on in the outer world.
I appreciate you saying that. I’m a happy for-no-reason trainer and that is similar to what you’re talking about. You can continue to be fulfilled and have meaning in your life and be happy, whether you get up demotion, whether the politicians are doing things your way or not, and all of that. Of course, if you get a demotion, there might be a moment of being bummed out and so on and so forth, but it doesn’t have to be something that you wallow in the next few weeks. It doesn’t have to carry a road apart.
I also would like to suggest that there might be more to what you’ve been saying about being in a smaller circle within the larger circle. I’ve read a blog about that. It’s quite a coincidence. In the blog, I was saying that it’s important to focus on your circle of influence, that smaller circle, all the people you encounter, your day-to-day living. Support yourself in knowing and acknowledging that there are lots of possibilities for you within that circle. Maybe it’s not possible for you to decide what policies are going to be happening in the government.
Certainly, there are a lot of opportunities for you to notice what is possible, which includes the possibility of doing things that are going to support you to come to a place of peace. There’s a whole array. When you’re focused on the circle of influence, the possibilities become a little bit clearer. The other thing about that inner circle is that if what you’re doing is dropping a pebble with your enthusiasm and peace into that inner circle, into your portion, your circle of influence, it will ripple out and it will reach the wider circle. Quantum physics has established that.
I love that idea as well because your inner world is your container if you will. We want things to happen in our world, and then it’s influenced by everything that’s happened in the outer world. I look at it as a container. You have to protect the container. There are some things that you can’t control. There are some things that are going to be present, but it doesn’t mean that what you’re trying to accomplish is impossible or that there aren’t any possibilities. I love that you brought up the fact that you have to look and see what is possible because a lot of times, we’re heading down this track and we’re going in this direction.
Spiritual Growth: When you focus on the circle of influence, the possibilities become a little bit clearer.
We have our eye on, “This is the destination that I like.” There’s a rock or a tree or something that falls right into your path and it’s like, “It’s because of this, now that isn’t possible.” For a lot of people, that’s the end. It’s over. They stop right there. I love the fact that you say what is possible because, within the realm of impossibility, there are new possibilities. We have to have our minds open to see those things, and then have the container, the capacity, the environment within ourselves, within our world to experience what is possible.
I love the phrase, protect the container. Protect that little circle, your circle of influence. That’s something I’ve never heard anyone say before. I know of so many ways to help protect the container and help keep things secure, safe, and protected within you. A lot of it has to do with habits and we have a lot of habits that we may not have identified and we’re not aware of. Maybe we have the habit of negative self-talk or the habit of complaining and resisting life and saying, “Life should be this way and not that way.”
If we were to change the habit of negative self-talk to positive self-talk, I know everyone’s always talking about this. I know it’s easy to say, “I’ve heard that before. I don’t need to listen to this part of the conversation. I already got that down. I already know about that.” Do you really have it down? If you were to take an inventory of the self-talk from the last two hours of your life, this is a huge jewel that is easy to dismiss.
When you dismiss wonderful pearls of wisdom like having a daily attentiveness to making it positive self-talk and treating yourself with respect and dignity, that can make a difference. The other habit is that there is also seeing yourself as the magician. Getting into the habit of replacing the negative self-judgments, negative self-talk with something bigger. That can be more powerful than trying to release self-judgments, release those playing small, and get rid of self-criticism. We can let those fade away.
When we form habits of noticing how vast we are, “I am the emperor. I am the magician. I am the empress.” All of us with our divine masculinity within us. “I can be the alchemist. I can work with everything that life is giving me, all the cards on the table and I can turn them into something glorious. I came into the world with a heart that wants to love affirming all of this and having a bird’s eye point of view. Stop fighting what life is handing you and start agreeing with what the cosmos believes about you. The cosmos looks at you and sees so much more than you see in terms of possibility and potential. We just see the tip of the iceberg, even if we’ve been growing spiritually. I’ve been growing so much by leaps and bounds. I know 90% of me has yet to be discovered.” What I like to do is help. I’m a possibility whisperer. I whisper about possibilities. I might help people discover. I can’t do the discovering for you. You have to do your gardening, but I can give you fertilizers.
Let’s talk about that. Some of the things that you’re talking about, people know. People are smart and sometimes, are distracted. Maybe someone’s reading and they’re like, “I know all of that,” but they’re not doing that. Their attention is on, “What’s going on in the world?” I’m healing. I feel like that sometimes, too. Those things need my attention. That’s what I need to focus on the most because It’s present. It’s there, but yet, I have to take a step back and say, “What matters most? Where do I have the most influence? What do I need to spend my time focusing on? Where do I need to change maybe my perception of what’s happening?”
That’s where the distraction comes in because we see, “This is what’s going on in the world. This is what it’s going to lead to seemingly. This is how it’s going to affect what I’m doing, where I want to go, how to live, and what’s going on in my inner world.” That causes us to react. We’re living from out there. What’s out there is controlling the behaviors, the thinking, and everything. How do we get back to focusing on what’s in the inner world?
It all starts with valuing your well-being and your capacity to serve. It starts with noticing what it is that your heart’s true desires are. The heart’s true desires are the starting point. I also start from the premise that we all come into the world with pure hearts that want to love each other. Later on, we learn about how to separate ourselves from each other. There’s a lot of clouds that get in the way of the clarity of our desire to love each other. That can keep us from connecting with that eternal current of joy at the bottom of our hearts.
That can keep us from connecting with that eagerness to be present for others, that curiosity to find out what this soul believes or what the soul prefers, and to welcome other people. All of the stuff we get conditioned with is part of the human territory and it does get in the way. Returning to the heart’s desire as a springboard, as a starting point can give us an incentive, motivate us, and help us commit to taking steps forward in spiritual growth.
What are some of the tasks that are necessary or recommended by you as a happiness trainer and expert to get to that place? That’s what we’re all after. When we experience what the heart desires, that is the epiphany of happiness and that’s what everyone wants. What causes the opposite of happiness is the belief or the idea, “I am not going to get that right.” That causes hate and discontent. If returning to the heart’s desire is the key to staying in the game, staying focus, and not being distracted, then what are some of the practices from your perspective one should execute or provide as rituals or habits or daily objectives in order to stay in that place and stay in that rear?
You are helping me to backpedal to where I begin with my clients. Maybe that isn’t the starting point because first, we need to address the fear of loving. That’s what is the biggest block to living a life from the people in our hearts and having relationships formed out of that beautiful, sweet spot within us. It gets in the way of harmony, and then being in touch with our heart. The fear can be addressed by befriending, becoming intimate, and listening to the fear. Everyone’s been talking for years about pain. Pain has a message for you. Nobody that I know has been addressing the notion that fear also has a loving message for you.
Do you think that’s the part of many of the reactions or behaviors to what’s going on in the world? Do you think it’s all based on fear and we don’t typically recognize it? I want to get to the basis of what you’re saying here. The opposite of love is fear. Do you feel that we operate in a place of fear-based on being able to be a distraction, especially on what’s going on in the world?
Fear is rampant and it has been something that a lot of people have had trouble overcoming for centuries. Ultimately, some people would say that the virus of fear throughout one individual and another in humanity has added up to an environment where there’s war again and again. Fear is at the root of all of these problems.
Confidence is your fuel to further growth. Click To TweetLet’s get back to some of the things that we can do to not only know this because to me, that’s what we’re battling here. I like to know exactly what my resistance is specifically because the more I know what the resistance is, I know and understand how to overcome it and attack it or avoid it. If that’s the basis and the resistance that we’re truly facing at the essence, then what are some of your recommendations on how do we play this? What game plan do we put in place to overcome and win against this?
The problem is if the fear has been thought of calling the shots or has been in the driver’s seat, you might say. It’s not a bad thing to have fear with you alone for the ride in the backseat of the car. I don’t know if fearlessness is possible for the human being. Maybe or maybe not. I don’t know. That’s not what I recommend people strive for. Let’s all just try to be friends with our fear. Maybe the fear will say something like, “I want you to put yourself first.” Fear told me that one time because I have not been putting myself first. I have been having some negative consequences come out of that.
Were you afraid to do that? Was that a fear for you to put yourself first?
I don’t know. It may have been. The thing is, it was worry that told me that. It’s fear and worry. They’re intertwined with each other. Worry was telling me that I have been getting in the way of some fruitful projects happening because I haven’t been putting myself first. When I was listening to that, I was able to go from there and say, “What do you need me to do? What do you need and require for me?” If you have conversations about what the fear and worry need and require, and if you do it in writing, that helps you go deep and have clarity. That can help with getting to a place of checking in with the fear and worry. “Am I doing a good job being your ally and meeting your needs and concerns?” As the journey goes forward, you can continue to check-in. This will help put the mastery within you. You’re the one who will now be in the driver’s seat if you are having a dialogue with fear.
I love the fact that you said you don’t want to eliminate fear altogether. You want to have a relationship with it. You want to befriend it. I call it managing. Like resistance, obstacles, challenges, we don’t want those things to happen in life. However, they are necessary. When they show up, it’s not that we want to eliminate them. That shouldn’t need to go. It’s managing them because there is something we can get out of them. If they didn’t show up, we wouldn’t have that opportunity to get what we can get.
You have to have both sides of the coin. When it shows up, there’s always that negative side. “It’s stopping me. It’s preventing me. It’s uncomfortable. That hurts. It’s taking away my happiness.” There’s this where it’s like, “There’s the opportunity here or a new way of being that I discovered or a change in direction, a pivot, a new possibility.” That’s the positive side of the coin. You can’t have that if it doesn’t show up. What you focus on is the determinator that can be the difference between you being unhappy and sad, joy or hate and discontent.
In order to get everything from that, to master that situation, to execute in a way where you are experiencing the possibility, you are gaining the benefits from what’s showing up, is you have to manage it. You’ve probably been in situations where you want things just to stop and go away. “I want this to end right now.” That’s just not life. It doesn’t stop. It doesn’t go away. It exists. The key here is how you manage what’s present at the moment and it has everything to do with you, so that’s a skillset and it can be learned.
What’s missing is the ability to manage those things when they show up emotionally, mentally, spiritually, even physically sometimes, be in your body. That’s all intertwined and connected. Once you have that ability, you can manage to resistance and opposites shows up. Honestly, Elliott, that builds a certain level of confidence that almost gives you a mentality, “It doesn’t matter what shows up. I’m going to win.” It’s not because the challenge doesn’t have anything to do with it at that point. It’s the skillset in knowing how to manage what it is. You’re not sad. You’re looking forward to it.
When it shows up, you’re like, “This is an opportunity now for me to either test these skills out and perform well or figure out what I don’t know and get better at it.” That’s the beauty of life. We get to do that, and then we get to pass those skills down. To me, an athlete who wants to be the best, wants to win a championship, out there on the field, he wants to play against the best competition, the absolute best, and that gives him the opportunity to get better. Opportunity to lose? Definitely present. Opportunity to get hurt? Definitely present, but yet, there’s so much more to gain. What are you focusing on? “I’m out there because I want to get better and I want to win. That’s why I play the game.”
Speaking of wanting to play against the best opponent, you could think of COVID as the best opponent possible. It’s exciting to have a bigger opportunity before humanity, before us individually than ever before in history perhaps for us to practice what we’ve been working on over the years to let the rubber hit the road and see if we can unfold to that degree. I love what you’re saying about confidence showing up. As you take baby steps in the right direction, it begins to snowball confidence and momentum. In other words, it goes full circle, and confidence is your fuel to further growth.
These initial baby steps are perhaps the most important and the toughest also. When you’re starting to say yes to becoming more of who you are when you’re starting that journey and first, making the commitment to having a fulfilling life, those are the first baby steps. Those can sometimes be the toughest because you were still in the habit of falling into the trap of discouragement, of listening to people out there saying, “That’s impossible,” when it isn’t. I do have a number of things that can help with managing. That’s the word I’ve never used. I love the word and maybe I’m going to borrow it from you, Rodney. Thank you for introducing that.
Just give me credit.
Will do. A lot of things have their foundation of self-awareness. The big book that AA has, has some things that sit on self-awareness. Noticing when you’re contracting and noticing when you are not going in the right direction. It’s all about what direction are you going. St. Catherine of Siena once said, “I take truth from the saints, from everyone, from New Age. I talk in all languages. Heaven is not a place. It’s not a destination. It’s a direction. If you’re going towards the light, you are in heaven at that moment.”
As I was saying about the AA book, they talk about confessing and repenting. If you want to use the old language or if you want to use the new language, they talk about noticing when you’re off course and when you’re not going in the direction of heaven. When there’s something you’re doing that’s tripping you up, then you need to make an adjustment and pivot on course. Things like self-awareness and noticing that course correction that can help with managing and can help ultimately lead to being unshakable, invincible, and managing in a good, confident way.
I want to bring up that is a process for people because when we speak in these terms, we say, “Recognize how you feeling. Maybe you need to make a change.” Yeah, that’s all true. It may not happen overnight. Maybe that’s the process. Maybe you figure it out. “What direction to go?” It takes a few weeks or it takes a few months because within that, in my mind, it’s trial and error sometimes because it’s putting your best foot forward towards a goal, direction, pivot, or whatever it is.
It may seem like that’s the right thing to do at that time. It resonates with you because you need to do something. Sometimes, when you’re out on the field and you get your blood work, you’ve got to stop the bleeding. Stopping the bleeding made me, “We’re going to stop doing what we’re doing. We’re going to do something different.” You maybe haven’t done that before. You may do it and find that it doesn’t work or it doesn’t work to the degree that you need it to work. There’s a process of figuring things out in this game.
I love what you talked about the feeling. Being in tune with your feeling and how you feel spiritually and emotionally. Being connected with whatever it is that you’re doing because sometimes, we just do stuff. There’s no feeling, connection, engagement with spirit, and engagement with other people around you. You don’t want us around you to support you and be on board with you. Those things are necessary for you to be successful. I went to see my grandmother and she lives in a rural area. One of the things I started to notice the utility lines. Don’t ask me why I started noticing this. This is crazy.
Spiritual Growth: You’re a human. You’re allowed and entitled to honor the human experience however it shows up.
Whenever there was a change in direction of the utility lines, the pivot point, that particular utility pole had a grounding on it. It was grounded to the ground. If you were to take that grounding away, you would see that pole would not be able to support the change because the tension from the change will cause it to pull over. When you’re going through a change in life, you have to be grounded, and that grounding could be your support system.
It could be your ritual, spirituality, meditation, or whatever it is that keeps you grounded as you go through the change, and that’s such a critical element. There are certain things we need around us. We have to stay grounded whenever we are going through the change. That’s because there’s tension. There are things that are happening that are pulling on you. When you’re going through a change, you need something constant. That’s what balances it out.
The reason why the poles can scare me upright because even though it’s being pulled in multiple directions, it has the grounding that balances the tension out so it can stay upright. That grounding is constant against the tension of the change that’s happening. When you go through change, have some constant, something that’s not changing, something that’s remaining the same for you that you can go to that you do every day and helps you stay upright as you go through that change.
I appreciate that. Thank you for bringing that up. For me, I have a fairly practice that I’ve been doing almost every day and that’s going to the park, taking off my shoes, and I keep my socks on, that doesn’t get in the way of the Earth’s energy, and standing in a tree for a few minutes. If you’ve got 3 or 4 minutes of being connected with Mother Earth in that way, that can help you get grounded. Of course, for years now, I’ve been doing meditations. I find it to be deep and helpful. Those are important. I appreciate what you were saying about being tender with yourself.
I would add that self-judgment is optional. Stay away from self-judgment if you can. Allow yourself to have a human experience of confusion, of trial and error. You’re a human and you’re allowed and entitled to honor the human experience however it shows up. Along with that, I would just add, one of the wonderful things we can do as a gift to ourselves is work on being willing to let go of all of the beliefs we have about ourselves to say, “What if I have been wrong about who I am all these years? What if I have been missing a whole lot about who I am? What if I haven’t been seen the whole picture?”
Notice how your self-portrait that you’ve been painting is. Is it less beautiful than it could be? When we’re drawing a truthful, accurate, objective self-portrait, it may have some human flaws in it and that’s fine. It’s also going to have tons of glory, magnificence, inner beauty, and nobility. It’s important to be focused on that. Acheulean of Narvik said, “You can glance at the shadow, but dwell in the positivity. Don’t wallow in the negativity.”
I love this because, in any given game, there are times where you could make mistakes, fumble the ball, throw interceptions, miss your route, run out of bounds at the wrong time, make mistakes, and do all kinds of stuff in the game. When it’s getting down to the end of the game, you can dwell on everything that you’ve done wrong and all the mistakes you’ve made, and that can cause you to lose the game.
You can focus on, “Here’s the moment right now. This is the defining moment. Everything hinges on what we do right now. It doesn’t matter what mistakes I’ve made. It doesn’t matter what I did yesterday. It doesn’t matter what happened years ago. It doesn’t matter if I drop the ball. It’s this moment.” At times, our memory doesn’t serve it, especially when we have opportunities to do something great. You start thinking about the times where we’ve had opportunities before, but we fell short.
It seems to cloud our judgment on what’s possible because something hadn’t worked before and it didn’t work an hour ago. That was an hour ago. This is a new hour. There are new possibilities in this moment. That is worth trying again. You have to forget that relationship, the financial failure, the job, and all of those things that didn’t go right. If you bring that in and that’s your focus for where you are right now, you’re sabotaging yourself. You have that imposter syndrome. You’re bringing those thoughts and past experiences into the present. Leave the mess past experiences and only pull out what you’d learn from that and filter it. As my grandmother would say, “You have to sift it out and only get the good stuff.”
Say yes to new possibilities. Click To TweetIn this day and age, we need to be acknowledging all the little baby steps we’ve had. In fact, when I’m assigning gratitude journals as an optional assignment for clients, I tell them don’t do it traditionally. Don’t just open the page and say, “I’m healthy. I should write that down.” No. The word should is not going to give you any juice or energy. Instead, I like to encourage people to go out and get a gratitude journal and write down, “How have I grown over the last few weeks spiritually?”
Keep focusing on writing 1 or 2 things every day, acknowledging the little things, little ways in which you’ve grown. Either the specific moments of, “I caught myself when I was triggered and I didn’t respond with my usual triggered response.” That’s specific, or generally, “I’ve been feeling so much more joy lately,” or whatever that general thing is. Noticing and acknowledging, either in the shower or in writing, the good things can be helpful.
Also, gratitude journals can be helped by training wheels. What do I mean by training wheels? I mean appreciation. Appreciation is like training wheels for gratitude. If you’d like to start with two weeks of writing, “Something I appreciate about myself is,” not that be you and what you do for two weeks. We’re going to cause the gratitude, which is going to be even more fun after those two weeks. If we’re doing three things in two weeks and if you’re writing it down, instead of in the shower, you can keep track and you can make it distinct different things. You’re going to have about 42 things or so after two weeks that you appreciate about yourself.
In the next two weeks, you don’t have to think of anything. You look at what you wrote down the last two weeks and you translate the appreciation statements into gratitude statements. If the first thing on my appreciation list is, “Something I appreciate about myself is my tenderness,” then I’m going to translate that to, “I’m grateful for my tenderness.” I can translate, “Something I appreciate about myself is my love for cats or my willingness to learn.” “I’m grateful for my love for cats. I’m grateful for my willingness to learn.”
I liked that because when you look at great athletes, take a Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, LeBron James, Peyton Manning, Tom Brady or Emmitt Smith, any of those good athletes when the game is on the line, those are the guys that say, “I want the ball.” I don’t think it’s out of an act of arrogance. It’s an act of understanding what they are capable of. When we’re going through situations, maybe COVID or any other thing, and that fear comes up because we feel the resistance is more powerful than we are. If we fixate our minds on what we’re capable of, it’s like, “This is here. Give me the ball. This resistance that showed up, I know me.”
This exercise that you’re talking about here puts those characteristics and traits about ourselves to the forefront and you’re learning them in an environment that’s safe. You’re not having to go out and execute and figure out this stuff in the face of resistance or challenge. This is a safe environment. We’re here understanding and building confidence about who you are and what you got. These guys know what they have. It’s because they know that they have, they’ll have the confidence and the trust in themselves to go out and face whatever the opposition is. Win or lose, “I’m going.” It’s because they know.
I love this because maybe we don’t give enough credit to ourselves. I said that a long time ago when I first started in this industry. We give more credit to challenge and resistance than we do to ourselves. It’s because we don’t know what we’re capable of. No one has taught it. They don’t teach awareness. In school, they don’t teach co-creation and they don’t teach this stuff. If you don’t know, you don’t know. You don’t know what you don’t know. If you don’t know these things about yourself, you can’t go to your toolbox and say, “This is what I’m going to do.”
Spiritual Growth: You are more than you think you are. Give yourself permission to discover more of the part that is hidden.
You can’t go to your playbook and say, “I have a team that is good at X, Y, and Z. This is the plan. We’re going to run. We’re going to shut this down. We’re going to win the game. You’re not going to be able to keep up with us.” You can’t do that. When you know thyself and know the qualities about you, the skillset that you have when it comes to managing resistance, overcoming resistance, knowing where to go, what to do, how to play, and what strategies. It’s being familiar with who you are and what tools you have, then you’re looking at this in a totally different life.
The fear we talked about, for some reason, that’s not as prevalent anymore because you have a certain level of confidence. It doesn’t mean the fear doesn’t exist. Maybe you still walk out there with some level of fear, but the confidence is overshadowing the fear because you know you. I love this exercise because it brings those things to the forefront. Sometimes, we have to remind ourselves of who we are, and a lot of times, it’s after we’ve gone through a lot of pain and suffering that we remind ourselves. We have a wake-up call after a while like, “We could have made a decision a long time ago, to get up, if you will.”
I appreciate all the compassion, caring that you’re bringing and all of the support you’re giving to everybody to make a little shift in direction. A little tiny shift, a little tiny exercise like this is basic and yet, over time, it can lead to snowball, to something major and eventually, you will become unrecognizable compared to who you are now. You’ll experience yourself as so much more powerful. What’s going on is when you’re taking the time, just two minutes a day to write down three things you appreciate about yourself, and then change those to gratitude, is it’s going to spill over into your actions in life automatically without you thinking about it. You’re going to find yourself surprising yourself by offering to pay for the person’s coffee behind you when you’re at the cafe. When you’re doing these kinds of things, it reinforces the wonderful confidence and self-image you have. All of a sudden, you find that you are indeed a person who has so much kindness, beauty, light, and integrity. Self-trust is nurtured.
This gives an opportunity for you to co-create if there’s something there that you want to be more of. You start speaking that into existence and over time, you find yourself being that type of person through transformation can take place, so this is beautiful. Elliott, how can people connect with you? If they wanted to learn more about you, coaching programs that you offer, and get to know you, how can they find you?
You can go to my book’s website. That’s www.SayYesToLifeBook.com, and then when you’re at that site, you can click on a link to my coaching website as well.
Thank you for coming to the show. It’s been a deep and intriguing conversation. Practical advice that you have provided the audience and I love that because to be happy and overcome a challenge that’s changing the game your life doesn’t have to be difficult. There’s this idea or concept out there that takes a lot of work. I was talking to someone and he’s talking about, “I did all this work. I put all this work in to be this and to be that.”
Say Yes to Life: 7 Keys to Living Full Out from Within
There’s some effort that’s involved. It comes down to making a decision and putting some practical things in place that you can practice that changes the trajectory of your life. When you think about a huge ship that’s heading in a direction on a straight line, if you make a small change in the run-up of that ship, it ends up in a completely different destination than what it originally starts off that one little small change. Just making little small baby steps every single day to be being better. “I’m going to do this one little change today.” Nothing great. Nothing over the top.
“I’m going to meditate on this.” “I’m going to write down the things that I appreciate about myself today.” “I want to spend ten minutes doing it.” Just little things. If you get into the habit of doing them, they’re consistent. The key is being consistent with those things. That’s how you change the game. I want to thank you for coming to the show. I appreciate you. As we ask all of our guests the Game Changer Mentality question and that is, how can we bounce back from adversity, dominate our challenges, and consistently win at the game of life?
I have three things to offer in response to that. First of all, I’m going to paraphrase what you were saying. I’m going to say it’s important to say yes to the new. Along with that, to say yes to new possibilities. The final thing is to remember that you are more than you think you are. You are more powerful than you think you are always until our dying day. We are more beautiful, powerful, majestic, glorious, sensitive, and everything than we think we are. We do have it all wrong. Give yourself permission to discover more the part that is hidden.
Elliott, thank you for coming to the show. It’s been a pleasure.
I thoroughly enjoyed it. Thanks so much.
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There you have it, folks, another successful episode of the Game Changer Mentality. Give yourself permission to discover the greatest parts about you in this profile statement. I don’t think we take that up enough. We give ourselves permission to do that. We give more permission to the obstacles, challenges, resistance, hate, and discontent that shows. We allow that to have its place in our lives. We allow that more than we allow our greater selves to show up. That’s us. We have to take ownership of that. That’s our responsibility. “What are we given permission to?” That’s a good question.
Over the last month, last year, last five years, if you were to think about what you’ve been given permission to manifest in your life, have you ever been given more permission to the obstacles, challenges, resistance, and things you don’t want? Have you been given more permission to yourself? I can think of some things where I can improve in that area myself. Let’s ponder on that. I don’t know what’s coming out for you, but a lot has come out for me.
The other thing that you yourself permission for is to be willing to fall in love with yourself. Give yourself permission to celebrate who you are. Give yourself permission to enjoy life, even in the face of COVID challenges.
In any challenge, in that retrospect. Until next time, peace and love.
Important links:
- Say Yes to Life: 7 Keys to Living Full Out From Within
- Is Life Knocking You Down? Read Rodney’s inspiring story – Get Up! I Can’t. I Will. I Did… Here’s How! https://rodneyflowers.com/get-up-book/
- Recognize Your Positive Potential – Essential Assertions by Rodney Flowers https://rodneyflowers.com/essential-assertions-book/
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About Elliott Robertson
Elliott Robertson is a Spiritual Growth Coach. He supports clients release self-judgment and adopts habits of thought that support becoming unshakable.
He is the author of Say Yes to Life: Seven Keys to Living Full Out from Within and he has been published in several major publications including Science of Mind, Daily Word, and Miracles.
Elliott is a certified leader of Happiness workshops and he holds a Masters degree in Psychology.
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