After her business and marriage fell apart back in 2012, Ani Anderson was left questioning herself, “What is my purpose?” Searching for answers from books and courses and not finding them, she was inspired to write her book, Find Your Soul’s Agenda, which outlines the process she used to get her life back on track. Today, Ani joins Rodney Flowers to reveal how she exactly found herself and what you can do if you find yourself in those dark places. Ani also shares her blueprint for success and what she thinks is the key to our potential.
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Finding Your Soul’s Agenda With Ani Anderson
I’m excited about this episode. I have Ani Anderson here with me, who is the creator of the Find Your Soul’s Agenda process and co-creator of Sensation-Based Mindset coaching. She has had many outward successes in her life from Broadway to business. However, her most treasured success has been becoming a person, a wife and a parent that she’s proud to be and facilitate the same growth in the lives of people she has led in her coaching practice. She lives in a log cabin in the woods nestled between the foothills of the Adirondack Mountains and Lake Champlain. She, her husband and kids can often be found swimming in the lake, skiing and enjoying the amazing local food or riding the ferry back and forth. Please help me welcome Miss Ani Anderson to the show. Welcome to the show, Ani.
Thank you so much for having me. I’m excited to be here with you, Rodney.
Likewise, I’m glad that you decided to come and spend some time with me. I’m excited about you and I’m excited about your book. You are the bestselling author of a book that I find intriguing. I’ve not seen a book like this before, Find Your Soul’s Agenda: The One Word That Will Make Your Whole Life a Success. That’s a wonderful title. Based on what I’ve read so far, I’ve learned much meat in this book, but I don’t want to give it away. I would love for you to tell us a little bit about this book and what inspired you to write this book?
What inspired me to write the book was my life was a mess and I needed to figure out what was going on. You’ve heard that story before. Many of us are coming at what we teach based on what’s happened in our own lives. That was me and my life, my business, my marriage, everything had fallen apart back in 2012. The question that I was asking myself is, “What is my purpose?” That’s what I was looking for. I looked, searched, read books, took courses and kept finding answers that were similar but not answering my question. The reason that it wasn’t answering my question was that the answer was a person that I couldn’t see. The answer was things like, “Your purpose is to be a leader that’s respected. Your purpose is to be unconditional love. Your purpose is to be in the full expression of who you are.” My life was a mess. I couldn’t figure out how to get from where I was to where I wanted to be. The Find Your Soul’s Agenda process is the process I used to get my life back on track.
I find it interesting though, however, that when we go through things in life when you’re talking about an experience, this wasn’t a pleasant experience. It sounds like it was uncomfortable. It was unwanted. It wasn’t pleasant at all, yet when we are in these types of situations, always look to the purpose. We were trying to find that thing that will allow us to have enough energy that will take us through whatever it is that we’re going through. It’s such profound, and I know I’m off topic a little bit here when it comes to your book, but I wanted to recognize that this is a common reaction. You’ve probably heard stories of people who have gone through certain things and as a result of this, they find purpose and meaning. The same thing happened to me. What was the process? What did you do? How did you find yourself?
I got frustrated with these answers that seem to be one-sided and I couldn’t figure out how to get from where I was to where I wanted to be. It was frustrating that I tried to make myself stop seeking. It was an obsession in my head. All I could think about was finding this answer and I kept bumping up against a wall and I finally decided I need to stop looking, which doesn’t work, but that’s what my mind said. I remember one day I was waiting for the person who cuts my hair to be ready in my car and I was sitting there looking out at the trees and it dawned on me. You’re going to like this. What I was missing was that life isn’t one-sided. Life is about awesome successes. It’s also about big-time challenges.
The person that I was at the time was the person who I was trying to become, but it was like looking on the other side of a quarter, the heads and the tails of a quarter. It’s the same quarter. They’re attached, but when we’re looking at one side, we can’t see the other side. When we flipped around, we can’t see the other side. If you’re looking at the heads, you can’t see the tails. If you’re looking at the tails, you can’t see the head, but it’s the same quarter and it’s attached and that’s what I found. That’s why the title of the book is The One Word That Will Make Your Whole Life a Success. We’re one person and we have one purpose, but that purpose is going to show up for us on both sides and in a certain way.
Rodney, your purpose is going to show up similarly for you. My purpose is going to show up in a similar way for me because of who I am and because of who you are. Your life’s journey is going to show up in positive and negative and dark and light in both sides in challenge and support, the same for me. When we have clear words around both sides, not one side, not where we’re trying to get to, but where we are, not who we are when we’re in our light, but who we are when we’re in our darkness, we can navigate the darkness with more consciousness. We can get to the places that we want to go more successfully, more easefully. We have clear language around how our life shows up in all aspects of our life, not when we’re succeeding, but when we like it to be.
Did you feel that challenge or resistance? We talked about purpose and we talked about life. Do you think it’s all part of the process?
Yeah. It’s been my experience as I’ve walked probably hundreds of people through the Soul Agenda process. It’s not only part of the process, it’s an identifiable part of the process that we can put clear language around. It shows up similarly to us. When we can identify it, it’s not scary and it’s not mysterious. The mystery is fun and exciting. Let’s face it, when we’re in those dark times, the more clarity we have, the easier it is for us.
What is this language that you are talking about that we can use in those dark spaces?
If you were going to go to a flower store and buy some flowers for someone, likely you would decide which flowers to buy based maybe on your relationship, you’re going to buy roses. Maybe those roses are saying, “I love you.” You’re going to buy daisies as daisies might be about friendship. Each flower has a certain essence about it. There’s a category we might say that this flower is like this and this flower is like that. Humans are like that too. Everybody has a certain way about them, a certain essence about them. Through a memory recapitulation process, by looking at our memories, we can find out what our unique essence is. The Soul Agenda process is about finding out what that unique essence is for each of us by identifying one word. That is our word. That is like who we are in our essence, when we’re in our essence, what that word is.
From there, what we do is we define that word. That definition isn’t the definition you’ll find in Webster’s dictionary. It’s the definition that we come up with ourselves because words are super important. We define that word. We also define what I call the polarity of that word. The polarity is like the opposite. When I don’t feel like this, I feel the opposite of this. I feel my polarities and I can give you some examples of what I’m talking about here. These clear words that I’m talking about, we come up with them. We come up with them based on a memory recapitulation process, because our memories point us towards the moments that have the most meaning for us.
Are we using these words to change the meaning of what’s happening or the resistance that’s showing up in life at that particular moment? Are they triggers so to speak?
The words are like signposts. We’re like signposts. For example, one of the people who I work with, her soul’s agenda word is empowerment. Empowerment to her means pieces of her definition or things like being seen, feeling full. I trust myself and I can speak my voice, whatever I have to say. That’s her definition. Her polarity is disempowerment. That’s the opposite. That’s pretty obvious. Her polarity would be not trusting myself, not being able to speak up, feeling embarrassed about myself. Some things like that are like her opposites as she described them. Those are the signposts that she can use during her day. For example, the Soul’s Agenda process is used to help people to make decisions. Anytime she has to make a decision, she’s saying to herself, “How can I feel more empowered? How can I help empower other people?” That’s her decision making a compass.
She can use her Soul’s Agenda to help her to make decisions. If she’s not thinking specifically about making decisions, then situations will arise in her life and she’ll be able to say to herself, “I feel embarrassed.” The thoughts might be going through her head and she’ll be embarrassed, “I’m on purpose. I’ve got to pay attention.” Whereas if she didn’t have those words to remind her, she might forget and we might forget we’re on purpose and we might get fearful, scared, or go into ourselves or hide. That’s where the words are like signposts to pay attention.
I completely get that. As I was researching, reading more about your book and researching about you, there were some statements that you were making that I thought were intriguing that I wanted to talk about. One is, “Your mind is not located between your ears.” I thought it was an intriguing statement. Do you want to expound on that for us?
In my world, mind means intelligence. We have much intelligence that is available to us at any moment. We have the brain, but we also have the entire body and the body is giving us information all the time. The body is the physical manifestation of our subconscious mind. People are talking all the time about changing their patterns and changing their programs. From my philosophy, you can’t do that unless you know something about changing your physiology. Some people can get themselves to change their physiology without understanding their physiology, but a lot of people don’t. I believe that’s one reason why a lot of people don’t succeed in being able to motivate themselves. To be able to succeed in the ways that they want to is because they don’t understand their physiology. That’s a big part of the mind. The other part of the mind is the collective consciousness. Any idea that ever has been or ever will be, we have access to. One of the ways that we can access that isn’t here, but it’s through our body. I believe that a big part of the mind is our entire body because that’s where our intelligence lives. It’s not our brain.
You mentioned success in life, what is your blueprint for success?
My definition of success is utilizing everything available to you. One of my favorite ways to describe it and this is when it occurred to me. I was making soup in my kitchen, I was chopping vegetables, and I was taking the ends of the carrots, the ends of the onions and the onion peels. I was putting them in the compost because at our house we put the food scraps in the compost and then we take the compost to the farm. That’s down the street. What does the farm do? They put the compost in with manure and then it becomes the fertilizer for the soil. It’s thinking about the soup I was making in the compost in my life. I was like, “That’s a success.” Success right there is taking everything in life, not wasting anything because it’s those dark moments. It’s those tough times. It’s that stuff that we throw in the trash, the challenges and things that add to the richness and fertilize our growth. My blueprint for success has something to do with that definition of success.Our capacity to visualize and envision our growth is the key to our potential. Click To Tweet
For me, my blueprint would be remaining as conscious as you can humanly be in your patterns and conditioning so that you can make choices as to who you want to be, what do you want to do, how do you want to behave and all of those things. For us to truly choose, for us to have a choice, we have to understand what our subconscious patterns are and what our conditioning is. Instead of being the outpouring of our conditioned patterns, we’re choosing who we want to be. We’re choosing what we want to do and how we are. My blueprint for success would be understanding how to be as conscious as humanly possible in our patterns. Choosing whether you want to keep them or whether you want to change them and knowing how to change them up.
How does someone do that? Is that a practice? I can imagine someone maybe reading this and they’re trying to wrap around their head, how do I be more conscious? There could be someone reading that is in the middle of a crisis. Maybe they feel like they don’t have a choice for whatever reason. It is what it is. They feel that they have to deal with it. You and I both know that’s not the case, but it could feel that way. I want to talk about feeling and sensations, but what’s your response to that?
That’s one of the reasons why I called the Soul’s Agenda Process, the Soul’s Agenda. Sometimes it feels like life is having its way with us. We get to a certain place where we realize, “I have a choice,” but let’s face it, sometimes it’s hard. We feel like life is having its way with us. It’s like our soul or life or something greater than us has an agenda for us. I believe that the agenda is always evolving for everybody. The agenda is growth. You look at the universe and it is evolving. That’s all that’s ever happening. I, with full honor and respect, say I’ve been there too. I know you have to, Rodney, and it’s hard to be in those challenging situations. The more self-compassion and love we can have for ourselves when we’re in those places, the easier it can to get out. Understanding that life is trying to help us evolve. Life is not trying to get us down.
That’s exactly what I was going to say. I was listening to a video about your book and your opening statement is, “Everything in life has a purpose.” I believe that even when challenges come as hard as they may be, it’s part of the process. It’s part of evolution. It’s part of life trying to get us some breather. I feel that we have to go through those dips, at least in my opinion. This is a powerful perspective. When you’re talking about getting through and getting over challenges. When you have that perspective about life, is there something for me to gain out of this, so I should pay attention, I should look around, be in tune with how I feel? What are some things I can improve on? Even from an emotional standpoint, could I be a little strong?
You have to start looking inward at yourself when you’re in these situations to look and see, is there something to gain? Is life serving me? It may not feel, but you have to look and ask those questions. A lot of times, you’ll find profound, powerful life-changing answers that you wouldn’t find if you were not in that situation. I’m grateful for those types of situations because, for me, I call it game time. That’s when I’m like, “It’s time for growth. It’s time to perform. It’s time for me to pay attention. There’s something for me to gain out of this. It’s game time.” I voice and encourage that for other people and it sounds like you are of the same mind in a lot of ways.
What you’re saying there about asking yourself, “What is there to gain for me?” it helps to put us on a different level of consciousness and our problems that were created. Einstein says, “You can’t solve your problems from the same level of consciousness that they were created.” How do we get to a new level of consciousness? We ask ourselves better questions. When we ask ourselves, why did I get myself here? How did I get myself here? Why am I stuck? We’re keeping ourselves stuck. We’re keeping ourselves in that same plane of consciousness. When we ask ourselves, “What is there to gain?” we’re elevating ourselves. All of a sudden, we’re going to get different answers to those better questions. I love that you said that.
What is the key to our potential, in your opinion?
Our capacity to visualize and envision our growth is the key. I may have two answers to that question. For some people, it’s difficult to envision their life because they’re more present based people or people who are based in the past. It depends on people’s motivation for my philosophy. Certain people are motivated by things that are more present-based. Certain people are motivated by things that are more past-based. There’s no good or bad, they’re different. Certain people are motivated more futuristically. For the people who are more present or more past-based, it’s key to be able to look into the future, envision and see what you might want to grow? To grow that capacity, to envision and evolve you. Evolve a mission for your life and evolve a relationship, job or whatever it is. There’s that one. There are the people who are more futuristic thinkers anyway. I’ve got to tell you the key to their potential lives in a more present moment than they usually look at. It’s usually in the capacity to feel their feet on the ground, to be present, look people in the eye, take a deep breath and realize the earth, the material, the sensory and the stuff that’s happening right now.Feeling what you feel and letting yourself be however you are is a huge game-changer. Click To Tweet
Do you feel that’s what makes someone a game-changer in the world?
I do. I feel that somebody who’s a game-changer is somebody who can embrace both sides. I believe that the most powerful people on the planet are people who can embrace both sides of things in several different ways. This is one of the ways somebody who can think futuristically, but be here strongly in the present.
How important is this skillset as we go towards the future, as we evolve as human beings? We talk a lot about technology and the smart machine age and things like that. How important is consciousness, presence, being able to tap into your Soul’s Agenda, understanding your purpose? These things are important. Society has started to awaken and accept these ideas and practice they’re more readily. How important is that going in the future?
It depends on what future we want to co-create. What do we want? All of us need to ask ourselves that question and ask it of other people too. I want to ask you, Rodney, and I want to ask everybody who’s reading this, what future do you want? If we want to see a future that has less violence, less drug use, less misery and disease, then this is important, but is that the future we’re envisioning? I think those are the questions we need to ask each other. It’s important to me because that’s the future I’m envisioning. We’ve got to get on the same page here. We’ve got to get people on the bandwagon.
How do we do that?
This is one way we’re talking about it. We’ve talked about it. We give people lots of practical tips about it. I’m happy to do that as well here with you. Each of us who’s hiding in any way, it’s time to come out. Most of us still hide something. I have a client who was saying how she uses crystals, for example, in-home and she doesn’t talk about it at work. She was recognizing that this is a way that she hides and she was willing to start coming out of the closet as she said. Each of us has ways in which we still are in the closet and coming out about the things that matter to us that are in our hearts. It’s important.
Change is difficult. People are reluctant to change. We talk about transformation and that’s what we’re after here. It’s challenging for people and they get comfortable with who they are with the programming and that they’ve grown up with. They’re not aware. It’s like the, “I want the result of the change, but I don’t what to change.” What do you think is the most valuable transformational skill? That’s the perfect question for what we’re talking about.
If you’ve got to ask me, I would say personally being aware of your sensory experience and having the skills to be able to modify it. I don’t believe that every person out there needs those skills, but I believe a lot of people do. I believe there are some people and I’ve seen them and I’ve met them who can manage to get themselves to do hard things and to go for it without needing to pay attention to the body. I’ll tell you a little secret. I’ve noticed that sometimes with those people, what happens is they push too hard and their body ends up breaking down later and they don’t know how to listen and trust their body. For some people to get themselves in motion, that sensory component is important for other people. We were talking about with the futuristic thinkers, get themselves in the present. That skill is important. I feel like being able to have a high degree of awareness around your sensory experience and then understanding how to modify it, to me is the most transformational skill that you can possess.
How do you modify it? How do we do that?
It takes a little bit of work. The first step is to become aware of what’s going on in your sensory experience. The second step is to decode where that’s coming from. What pattern are you playing out? Where did that pattern start? Did it start with you? Did it start with somebody else? Where did you learn it and how has it played out in your life? Decoding is pretty important. After you decode, you get to modify. If you try to modify something without understanding it first, it’s like the Buddhist saying, “In order to love something, you have to understand it.” To bring self-love and acceptance to ourselves, we have to understand ourselves and that includes the sensory experience.
I’ll give you this as an example of how you modify. We categorize what happens in our senses based on the meaning that we make of things. The thalamus gland is constantly every tenth of a second propagating a signal throughout our entire body based on whatever meaning we already have made. Whatever’s going to happen with you later tonight, tomorrow, you already made meaning of that. Your thalamus is telling your entire body how to make meaning of tomorrow’s stuff. To be able to modify our sensory experience, we have to be able to experience our sensations, not from a place of emotion, but from a place of raw data, which is sensory data.
For example, if you were going through a tough time and you said to me, “I am going through a tough time and I want to modify my sensory experience.” I said, “Sure, I’d love to help. Tell me where in your body are you feeling those sensations and what do they feel like?” If you said to me, “I feel it in my chest and it feels like anger.” I’d say, “We need raw data, not emotion. What does it feel like? Tell me an adjective or an image?” You have to pay attention a little bit more and you think to yourself, “It’s in my chest and it feels hot and it feels constricted.” Now, I know I have raw data. When we have raw data without the meaning of anger, then we can modify it because the heat could mean all things.
The constriction could mean all kinds of things. By the way, if we can find constriction in our bodies, we can also find the opposite. We can find expansion, but a lot of times, we’re not looking for it, especially in our sensory experiences. We do these things here sometimes where we try to find the opposite experience, but we can do it in the body as well. When we’re feeling, for example, constriction in the body, we must also be able to find expansion in the body. We have to look for it and then we have to pay attention to it. We have to pay attention to it enough that the body starts to reprogram itself. That’s how you modify your sensory experience.
I want to dive into this a little bit. If I find that I have constriction in my chest, but there’s expansion, maybe it’s in my hand, what do I do then?
Pay attention to the expansion if you can. Something crappy happened in my life and I keep focusing on it. We know that for example, we focus on gratitude rather than this thing that’s bothering us. From a mental standpoint, that’s a good idea. We shift our focus and what we focus on grows. The cool thing is that when we try to screw that around in our intellect, sometimes it doesn’t work because the sensations are what make our experience feel real. We say, “I’d like to feel gratitude, but I can’t because I don’t feel it.” We can start to modify our sensory experience in the same way that we work with the intellect sometimes to be able to realize because it feels different. It’s a whole new experience in the body. That’s what changes our perspective. You were talking about transformation before and that’s why I’m saying this is such a powerful transformation tool because it allows us to change our perspective so that we’re like, “I can’t even believe I’ve thought that five minutes ago because I can see that this situation is here for my growth. I can see that I feel expanded and I’m ready to go.” It changes it like that.
I know a lot of these feelings that we have in our bodies that plague us, they come from the past. Many of them come from the past. One of the biggest is guilt. Something happened in the past. You’re guilty about it. You carry that guilt with you and the other person has moved on. You’re holding onto that. How do we get rid of guilt? How do we live a guilt-free life?
Guilt is about the idea that I did something wrong. Different shame is about I am wrong, but guilt is about I did something wrong. You’ve got to be honest with yourself. You’ve got to ask yourself, “This thing that I did, do I need to make amends? Should I have done that? Do I want to do that thing in the past?” We’ve got to be honest with ourselves about it. If we say to ourselves, “It’s in the past.” We try to mentally fix it. If we still know that we were a jerk or something, that’s in there. That’s part of that decoding process that I was talking about. You’ve got to get in there and be honest with yourself. As long as you’ve gotten in there, you could say to yourself, for example, “I did this thing. Maybe I’m not super proud of it, but it happened. I made amends to the people I have to make amends with. I’m clean.” From there, we can intellectually reconcile guilt by looking at it and I’m doing this literally on a piece of paper. You get a piece of paper and you write at the top what happened. You list on one side the benefits of the situation and on the other side, the drawbacks of the situation. The fact is nothing inherently is good or bad. We see that in this situation, there were lots of things that happened that were good out of it. There were lots of drawbacks too. Once we start to reconcile guilt like this, we recognize it’s a choice of how to move on from here.Success is utilizing everything available to you. Click To Tweet
Such as life. I love that because whether it’s guilt, challenges or traumatic events, I always try to fix my mindset to harvest the good out of everything. That’s what you’re talking about with those exercises. Focusing on what’s good in any, in every situation. This process that you are talking about with guilt and the transformation process, is this the same process that you would use for people who are dealing with resistance or how to teach them how to master resistance? Are we talking about the same thing here?
We are because resistance shows up in our bodies. It’s not the thought of fear that stops us. It’s a feeling. It’s the sensation of fear that stops us. That’s what stops us. That’s what resistance is all about. When the resistance gets big, it clouds our consciousness because all of our consciousness is focused on how bad we feel. Whatever somebody did and the story that’s going along with it. We’ve got the blinders on.
The biggest awareness here is that the resistance that you feel that’s stopping you is just the feeling. It isn’t real. It’s the way you feel about not having, let’s say for example you want to start a business. You made me feeling like I don’t have the money. Maybe that’s true that you don’t have the money, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t start the business. You’ve got to figure out how to get the money to start your business. That is a major issue for you that is preventing you from moving forward. You have to understand that it is just a feeling and separating the feeling from reality. A lot of people get that mixed up. You’re the perfect person. How do we deal with that?
I liked that you said separating the feeling from the reality because we get ourselves all screwed up around it. We’re like, “It is my reality.” It is your reality when you don’t feel like you have a choice. How do we get ourselves to the place where I have a choice? That’s the question to ask. It’s been my experience that people don’t have an experience of choice until they have an experience of choice in their bodies. I had a client one time, she had chronic pain for 30 years. She tried every therapist, physical therapist, chiropractor, doctor or whatever. She came into my clinic. This was years ago when I was working with people with chronic pain. She said, “I have chronic pain. I’ve had it for 30 years.” I said, “You have a choice.” She’s like, “No, I don’t.” It took about twenty minutes and we gave her for the first time in 30 years an experience where she had a choice. It wasn’t in her little pinky toe that she didn’t feel pain, but we helped her to see that there was a part of her body that didn’t feel pain. She realized she had a choice. We have to get ourselves to the place where we realize we have a choice in our bodies. From there, anything is possible.
The flip side of that for me is to motivate some people here that you have to take ownership of where you are. Sometimes that’s harsh, but when I hear that it’s a choice, whatever I’m experiencing is based on my decision. I’ve got to look at me because it’s my decision. The good part about it is, although that may be a little uncomfortable, that from this point on, you could choose properly.
I encourage anybody out there who’s angry about what you’re saying to choose to be angry and go into it and feel it. A lot of times what we do is we hear people. You say things like that and we feel angry but we go, “He’s a jerk or he doesn’t know what he’s talking about or he doesn’t know me or whatever.” We start to put up the resistance and that’s right there. The issue, whatever you feel, it doesn’t matter what you feel, feel it. That’s the way out. It’s not about making yourself happy. It’s not about making yourself positive to be able to get where you want to go. It’s about being where you are in the moment that you’re in it. If you’re weeping, awesome. If you’re angry, awesome. If you’re excited, great. There’s no right or wrong way to feel. Feel and be with whatever it is. That’s your way to the next step.
You realize you have a choice. For example, if somebody angry is reading this, they choose to be angry. They chose it and they can go in, but you can’t get where you’re going until you accept yourself. It’s a lot about self-acceptance.
The ownership is with you. You have to own it.
The first step in our philosophy is about becoming aware. Becoming aware means, whatever it is that you’re feeling is fine. It’s not just fine, it’s great. It’s the way. Feel it. That is the first step. To everybody reading, if you’re like, “I don’t know what to do next,” this is what you do, feel what you feel, be with it, be aware of it, sit with it. That’s number one. Much can happen from that, even if you do nothing else.
Ani, if people wanted to learn more about this sensory technique, transformation, finding their purpose, dealing with guilt or whatever, how can they connect with you?
The easiest way is to go to our website, which is MotivationBeyondMeasure.com. I love to talk with people. You can always email me and I’ll talk your ear off all day. The email address for me is Ani@MotivationBeyondMeasure.com.
We’ve talked about a lot of things that can help us deal with some of the feelings and emotions that we have to get us closer to success. What are some of the most dangerous enemies to the success we should be aware of?
It’s resistance. It is the number one killer of success. The thing is it robs us of our conscious awareness. That’s the thing. It’s like, your house is being robbed and you don’t even know.
I would agree with that. It’s more dangerous than fear.
If we’re talking about fear, you’re probably aware of it or resistance is fear with a cape on and you don’t even see it or something.
When I think about resistance, it has the ability to dictate your behavior in a manner that you’re not even aware of.
You don’t even know it.
I want to thank you for coming on the show. This has been a great conversation. I know that you not only wrote the book about Your Soul’s Agenda, but you’re also the co-creator of Sensation-Based training. Could you tell us a little bit about that? If people wanted to get involved with Sensation-Based training, how could they do that?
It’s all in that Motivation Beyond Measure website and we have corporate training. We have trained the trainer, we train coaches, and we’ll talk to you if you will talk to us about how to do it because we feel like this is the next wave in how to motivate people. We’ve been selling “just be positive” for way too long. It’s time to be real. That’s what we do in terms of helping you to motivate your people is to tell you the truth about how to get in the body so you can do it quickly, rapidly and compassionately.
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Feel what you feel and let yourself be however you are. Wouldn’t that be amazing if we didn’t have to do anything different than be how we are and be accepting of ourselves at that moment? That is a huge game-changer.
Why is that a game-changer? I’ve got to dive into this a little bit. I can feel people saying, “I’m always who I am. I’ve been feeling this way for years and you’re telling me just to be, I’m confused.”
Most people push it away so they’re going, “I don’t want this.” They’re pushing it away at the same time. There’s a big difference between saying, “I’ve been stuck this way for 30 years,” and sitting with yourself in it, feeling how crummy it feels, feeling how angry you are or feeling the pain. Once you feel it, instead of trying to push away feeling it, that’s the difference. It’s a total difference.
Is there a moment where we get past it?
When we go into it, we can release it. We can’t release it until we go in.
We have to deal with it.
We have to sit with it and we have to take this thing that’s trying to yak to us and put it on a shelf for a moment and sit there and be with it.
This probably has been the most profound show we’ve had. There’s work to be done. I feel now the thing to go in. If you’re reading this, maybe there’s some stillness that’s coming up for you. I’m allowing that space even for myself and it’s okay. I feel that one of the greatest advantages that I’ve had out of experiencing the accident in my life that I’ve experienced is stillness. It’s quietness, stillness, peacefulness. Be in a place where there are no distractions, there’s no movement, there’s no sound and there is nothing going on. It’s you and the silence. Those that are reading then maybe going through something and dealing with something. There’s a lot of power in it. If you can practice stillness, there’s a lot of healing. There’s a lot of intelligence. There’s a lot of discovery. There’s a lot of releasing that can be had as stillness, sitting with how you feel. We’re practicing that. This is how you do that. For those that want to know, how do you do that? One of the most difficult things for people is to be okay in the silence and the stillness. It is powerful once you learn how to do that.
What will you find? You could find your greatest gifts. I bet you will.
We’re going to end the show in stillness. Thank you, Ani.
Thank you so much for having me, Rodney.
- Find Your Soul’s Agenda
- Sensation-Based Mindset
- Find Your Soul’s Agenda: The One Word That Will Make Your Whole Life a Success
About Ani Anderson
Ani Anderson, MS, OT, LMT, CEMP, SBMC is the creator of the Find Your Soul’s Agenda process and co-creator of Sensation-Based Mindset coaching. She has had many outward successes in her life, from Broadway to business, however her most treasured success has been becoming a person, wife and parent that she’s proud to be and facilitating that same growth in the lives of the people she has led in her coaching practice. Ani lives in a log cabin in the woods, nestled between the foothills of the Adirondack mountains and Lake Champlain. She, her husband and kids can often be found swimming in the lake, skiing, enjoying the amazing local food or riding the ferry boat back and forth to school.
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